3 important skills that you no one has ever taught
Imagine for a moment that I am your father (see, dubious idea, but let's try).
Suppose we sit, sipping beer, listening to crickets and looking at the receding moon. Or laugh at a joke from the film, which has just watched. Or remember how five years old you are bathed in the cat toilet. In general, the idyllic picture of a Hollywood movie.
It's time for a confidential talk heart to heart, paternal wisdom, which will completely change your life and make a different look to it. Clearing his throat, I say to you: "Dear son, I want to share with you advice and tell you about three important life skills, which you no one ever said."
Of course, you will turn to me and say, "What kind of garbage, Dad? You sound like a dude from a commercial. " And I answered: "Come to show respect to his father, and listen carefully!"
So here's what I would say.
Do not take everything to heart
So we arranged that everything that happens in life, we are taking into your account and pass through itself. When we are successful, we feel that everything around us applauded. When things are bad, we get angry and we believe that we deserve better. We feel good only for a short period of time.
However, those who criticize us in times of failure, may have with us a lot more common. Do not assume that others are constantly discussing our mistakes: in the end, all obsessed with only ourselves and nobody cares about others. To err is human - should just take this lesson.
Everything that happens to us, makes us stronger, and it's part of our existence, whether we like it or not.
Do not hold on to their beliefs as a lifeline
Even if the conviction is easy to destroy, like a house of cards, many people continue to hold on to them, trying not to fall overboard sinking ship. It seems better to pretend that we do not hear anything, cover his ears with his hands, than to agree with the other point of view.
Here is an example. When we were 16, we have formed a clear opinion, covering all spheres of life. We know for sure that she will never fall in love, "botany", if he does not have a lot of money and expensive cars. But when the so-called botany turns 30, it's the same belief can play a trick on him, affecting the way a person behaves with the opposite sex.
The desire for knowledge is directly proportional to the changes that may occur in the life of
The desire to realize the error and the pursuit of new knowledge is directly proportional to the changes that can happen in life.
Try this technique: Now write down on a sheet of paper 20 things that you would like a change. Challenge all that unhappy: "I'm lazy," "I do not know how to talk to people," "I can not feel happy, because I always get annoyed," and so on. Once score 20 points, go over the list and write, that is, if you change it to myself. What will your life?
To let the changes necessary to see the two sides of the coin, and not assume that there is only black and white.
Learning to do, in advance without knowing where it leads
Since childhood, we used to do something that has a clear ultimate goal. We will clean the room - deserve praise, write a term - get the estimate. No uncertainty: Just do what you need. But this does not happen in real life. No one tells us we can build a successful career, there is no guarantee in any sphere, that of love, we will be happy to "once and for all." There is no way to know for sure whether we are doing the right thing or not.
Because of this, we all avoid: we need to know the result, even before starting to do something about it. Subsequently, our life becomes a series of recurring events - just because it is safe.
may we expect thousands of tiny setbacks, but the only way we will come to success
Every day I receive letters from people who ask, "How to find a purpose in life", "? I lucky in love", "How do you know that I'm doing the right thing?".
I delete these emails without reading them. I do not have a single thought on this matter!
First, no one knows what is best for you. Second, what do you ask a guy from the Internet, is already talking about the problem: you want to know the outcome before you begin to act.
Many of us are definitely worth adding to the chaos of his usual routine. Stop doing everything for the sake of some kind, sometimes fictional and illusory goals too. Live for today, indulging in the flow of life. Perhaps we expect thousands of tiny setbacks, but the only way we will come to success.
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Mark Manson (Mark Manson) - a writer, entrepreneur and coach. For details, see. In its online.