Habits that prevent women to be leaders
Many of the women carried away with their work, are embarrassed to think about careers and often do not admit that they have ambitions. But the world needs an ambitious woman, and why would not you? This question is raised by experts on leadership and Heldzhesen Sally Marshall Goldsmith.
Why do women who do their work well, do not tend to become even more powerful, because so they will have more opportunities to change the world for the better? Generalizing their experience of coaching experts have written a book, "You can do better" (Olympus-Business, 2018), which identified 12 reasons that hinder career:
- The reluctance to declare their achievements.
- Calculate the fact that your efforts will be noticed and rewarded.
- The revaluation of professional competence.
- The alignment but not the use of the relationship.
- Failing to enlist the support of allies.
- Following the principle of "work above career."
- The trap of perfectionism.
- morbid desire to please.
- The belittling their achievements.
- Excessive emotionality, verbosity and candor.
- "Chewing" failures.
- The tendency to be distracted.
Let's take a closer look at three of the least obvious reasons.
The revaluation of professional competence
Many of us strive to master all the subtleties associated with the work, and become masters of their craft. This is a great strategy to hold onto his position for a long time ... and get stuck there. Sally Heldzhesen and Marshall Goldsmith warned: if your goal - to climb to a new level, that professionalism is not likely to help. In fact, the deepening of the profession - it is running on the spot: you raise the bar for all the above and are always ready to make an extra effort. Meanwhile, your male colleagues choose another way: they try to do the job well enough, but have focused on networking and strive to become noticeable, which will help them to move to the next level.
At some point in their career to give worth less than the value of competence and learn to use other types of power
Experts propose to think about his position not only as a set of functions, but also as a bridge to what was coming next. Thanks to one only flawless work rarely get promoted. The reason for the increase, most likely will be that people know you and believe that you can benefit from a higher level. The higher you go, the less important it becomes to know all the answers - and the more well-developed relations mean.
You can not be an expert, if your area is expanding operations. You have less time to understand the details. As a result, you have to trust other people, and they - to trust you. And such trust is built with the full cooperation and not due to the attention to detail. It plays an important role power relations or acquaintances.
Communication is usually line up when you move within the company, performing different tasks, find allies and maintain contacts with them. Another type of power - the power of personal authority or charisma, the power that comes from the confidence that you inspire others. Expertise and connections will help win the personal authority, but always there is some component: the ability to apply themselves, the original mind, a way of speaking and listening, credible. So that at some point in their career to give worth less than the value of competence and learn to use other types of power, if you are set to rise to the level of senior executives.
Excessive emotionality, verbosity and frankness
Of course, both men and women at work experiencing a variety of emotions. But, according to the researchers, the fair sex are more likely to exhibit anxiety, frustration, resentment or fear. For open expression of negative experiences of women are often called capricious or "too emotional."
It is important to be aware of their feelings and accept them. And yet to speak publicly at a time when passions are not worth it. Your opinion about who is to blame, can easily be distorted. You can re-evaluate their arguments. You deem touchy or unmanageable. And surely you will not be able proportioned response to how best to proceed in order to get maximum results.
The ability to sense and identify your emotions gives you power. Reacting to what you feel, you are wasting this power in vain. For example, realizing that you feel fear, do not suppress it, but at the same time do not allow yourself tone of fear. Keep a confident tone.
The tendency to be frank - is another behavioral model, which brings women in professional life
Verbosity can be explained by the uncertainty, but often the habit reflects your strengths. What kind? For example, a gift of trust and communication networking, a genuine concern for others and the ability to notice the important - and invisible to the rest - the details. If you wish to become effective communication, your task - to preserve these strengths and work on brevity, focusing on the most important thing. The tendency to be frank - is another behavioral model, which brings women in professional life. We often employ the personal information (including recognition of their own weaknesses) as a basic tool to help establish friendly relations. It causes a feeling of intimacy and is seen as a sign of trust.
Of course, pretend to be someone you are not, you should never. But the endless pursuit of sincerity can be a trap if this will blur the boundaries that most are still revered organizations.
Following the principle of "work above career"
Many talented and hard-working woman, quickly rising to a certain height, rest on their laurels. They often resort to rationalization, emphasizing that their current job more satisfied: for example, they are comfortable long-term relationship, it's nice to use the developed skills. Yet they are unhappy in their hearts. They have to watch how come simultaneously with colleagues to move on ahead of them.
Of course, you can like, and very fit your work, so the reluctance to do something quite clear. Yet for too long stay in one position is not conducive to long-term sense of satisfaction and self-esteem. Slipping undermines your ability to influence the outcome and not the best way affects the salary.
Why often it is women who are deadlocked? Maybe you have not decided what I want to do, and your insecurities blocks the ability to act. Or you risk averse due to temperament. But the authors' experience, the most common reason that women put work above career, is one of the most important of their virtues - loyalty.
Learn to build a connection with the management and external partners - those relationships that will help in the promotion
Studies confirm that it is due to dedication to their immediate supervisor and the staff of the women tend to linger longer than men in the same place. Because of this virtue is easy to fall into the trap. In an effort to remain loyal, you can ignore the future, to sacrifice ambition and too cheap to sell their skills and potential.
What to do? Learn to build communication with senior management and external partners - those relationships that will help further promotion. Evaluate the usefulness of the work not just by how you like it or how much you appreciate, but also on how it will serve as your long-term interests. For example, it will help to open in full your ability and provide income that will lead full lives.
Of course, your understanding of self-interest may be different. You may need time more than money. Or for you there is nothing more important than the hours spent with the family. Maybe you aspire to a career involving a solution of various other problems opening or opportunity to travel. Whatever it was, first of all it is necessary to understand what inspires you, and act in accordance with your personal goals and values.
More details about these and other habits that prevent women to make a career, read in the book Sally Heldzhesen and Marshall Goldsmith, "You can do better" (Olympus-Business, 2018).
Sally Heldzhesen - a business consultant, lecturer, expert in matters of women's leadership, the author of leadership programs for corporations worldwide.
Marshall Goldsmith - the coach, the ideologist of the leadership, has repeatedly won the title of the world's best business coach. His book "Triggers" ( ". Triggers formed habits - tempers the character") and "What Got You Here Will not Get You There" ( "! Jump over your head") are included in Amazon.com hundred best books on leadership and success.