Emotions make us alive
they are normally make us laugh, mourn, rejoice or cry ...
Every day, under the influence of impressions and memories we experience the whole gamut of emotions. They skillfully control us: we feel the joy - and at this point we become more responsive, considerate of others. Sadness makes us more polite, courteous and careful. Stress also can literally kill us.
Due to the emotions and feelings of life takes on a special paint, but that's what scares us. Perhaps the fact that self-control and his emotional outbursts we are taught from childhood, and later life in society begins to dictate his "adult" rule: not accepted disbosom colleagues, rapidly rejoice or grieve in public.
We try to hide their feelings, repress them. But can you just with the fact that dictates cool head without them, to go through life? To harmoniously coexist with their emotions, experts say, first of all it is important to understand how they work, that carry, for which there are. This Russian physiologist Chingiz Izmailov and French psychotherapist Christophe André.
Psychologies: Emotions - our friends or foes?
Chingiz Izmailov: They help us to live and continue the race. Love pushes us to partner anger protected from enemies. Fear warns of the danger. Joy attracts us to others ... Basic emotions are the same at all, they are "written" in the genes of the extent to which support survival. So even claimed Charles Darwin and modern science confirms it.
Christophe André: Emotions - a universal language, the code that allows you to chat to people of different sex, age and social class. Culture and society in which we live, is determined only by the shape of their appearance, so we can be understood and accepted by the group. If I - a native of the southern edges, while mourning, I likely will express emotions very noisy. If I behave with restraint - such as if I lived in England - I will consider hysteric. Top manager, who in a fit of rage breaks at a meeting, colleagues will be considered a person with unstable mentality. But if a teenager from disadvantaged areas will not react to the insult, he would be considered a coward.
We tend to suppress and alter the emotions that are considered socially or morally unacceptable
Emotions, feelings, affections - how to define what we are dealing with?
Part I .: The main criterion - duration. Affect - immediate and short-term reaction to a specific event. When he takes possession of us, we lose our temper, can not control their actions. Sometimes it is so manifest rage, anger, fear.
Emotion (anxiety) - a temporary emotional experience of an event or situation. Seven basic emotions we feel - their combination and determines our feelings: anxiety, for example, may consist of a base of fear, anger and interest. Feelings also reflect the long-term and stable emotional relationship to another person, hobby or business in which we are engaged.
Why is it so hard to understand your emotional state?
Part I .: We tend to suppress and alter the emotions that are considered socially or morally unacceptable. We restrain ourselves, without being able to express irritation colleagues, and compensate the power of emotions, for example, the fact that there are a lot of start uncontrollably. Or we're having some "unexplained" pain - in the head, in the stomach. Or we turn in on themselves, become indifferent.
If some emotion for us forbidden, every time we encounter it, we will transform our sensations into something else ... and do not understand ourselves. So envy can turn into aggression or even admiration for the man who causes it. K .: A Once we have dissociated himself from the emotions, intuition starts to work worse, we make a mistake in the assessment of others and their own needs.
Some of us are too emotional, while others - reserved. Is there a happy medium?
K .: A If the rule exists, it is the social norm. When we live in the power of emotions - shame, embarrassment, guilt or anxiety - it prevents us. If we are "infected" with fear, fear the opinions of others, we become victims of social phobia. Too prolonged sadness and an overwhelming sense of guilt - it is the symptoms of depression.
Hazardous and other extreme. Some of us consider themselves maloekspressivnymi - often because they are afraid of excessive emotionality. As a rule, these people are no different talkativeness and talk about some episode of his life in a neutral tone, summing up: "It was nothing," or "so-so". As a result, they complain about the paucity of their social and personal life.
Why do some of us more and others less gay people?
Part I .: We are born with the same "set" of emotions that we feel the same physiological arousal, we have reduced the same facial muscles when we feel joy, fear, surprise or sadness. But we are growing up in different families and different cultures, in addition, parents are unconsciously changing the manner of communication with the child, depending on their sex. Boys also emotional, as well as girls, but they were ordered to be restrained and invulnerable. Therefore, as adults, they hide their emotions and tend to withdraw into themselves.
Do not emotions themselves, and the general attitude towards the world and dislike of others can cause illness
The women, on the contrary, dare to say what they feel, to show different emotions, including anxiety or sadness. And if some people are especially prone to negative emotions, this may be due to the fact that their early environment more welcomed by suspicion and distrust rather than joy and pleasure. Can emotions be hazardous to health?
K .: A is known that positive emotions have a positive effect - a temporary or long-term - on the immune system. But dangerous to hide negative emotions?
When psychosomatic medicine was making its first steps, it has been hypothesized that each type of repressed emotions correspond to a specific type of disorder:.. The fear of separation - asthma, suppressed anger - abdominal pain, etc. Studies have not confirmed this assumption. Although a connection was established between the restrained or too frequent anger and cardiovascular disease.
I think that rather than emotions themselves, and the general attitude towards the world and dislike of others can cause illness in people irritable.
Are there any emotions that we underestimate?
Part I .: All the emotions are important and useful - even those we call negative. They are as necessary as positive, although forced to suffer. Emotions - even such as sadness, disgust or anger - are useful information that facilitates understanding between people, protects from danger, so do not ignore them. On the contrary, it is important to take them for what they are, and learn to manage them.
The palette of our emotions
These spontaneous companions accompany us from birth. They are not always easy to determine, but it is difficult to disguise. There are seven basic emotions, but without them we would not be able to live fully. So why do we need them?
- Fear reported about the real or imagined danger, mobilizing the energy, but sometimes, on the contrary, paralyzes us while we decide how best to proceed.
- Anger arises when we think that we are not taken seriously or interfere achieve the goal. Its energy can be useful: thanks to her, we feel strength, courage and confidence.
- Mount helps to withdraw into himself, to survive the loss. Ultimately, it helps to bring the energy of life.
- Joy stimulates the release of hormones of pleasure. We feel confident, self-importance, freedom and feel that we love and are loved.
- Wonder - a reaction to the new and unknown. In assessing the risk, we freeze to then continue the investigation or in fear of running away.
- Aversion (contempt) protects from what can be dangerous for your mental or physical health (eg poisoning).
- interest is important for intellectual development. It encourages to learn and understand complex things.
Chingiz Izmailov - Russian physiologist, is the concept of a vector encoding psychophysiology.
Christophe Andre - French psychiatrist, psychotherapist, author of over 20 books on psychology.