PROotnoshenie to yourself!
The information publications on issues of self-training abound.
On the one hand, it pleases, and on the other - there is a fear, as if in all this is not lost.
Highlight important aspects of self-topic, that allow to diagnose how much you love yourself and accept, as well as give information on what can and should work to pump your self-esteem.
Self-assessment of each person is recognized on three levels:
- to himself.
- The relationship with others.
- Quality of life.
At each step, highlight important points. If they are implemented in your life, you can put a "+" if the part is half the "+" if not, "-".
1. The ratio of self
You accept and love yourself, when:
- Can you name at least 20 qualities that are most confident, and periodically expand this list of values forming the image itself.
- You see and accept your dark side: the qualities that you sometimes hinder or do not really like.
- Do not compare yourself with others.
- Do not compete with anyone, except with myself yesterday.
- Do not criticize yourself, leaving the opportunity for others.
- Take time for yourself and your self.
- to be able to say "No" where do not agree.
- You will not be bored with itself (ouch) is no fear of loneliness.
- Do you believe in yourself and your capabilities.
- Do you regularly to take care of your mental and physical health.
Those items, next to which you put a minus or partial advantages, is a zone of your personal growth and tools for improving self-esteem. Get your act!
2. Relations with others are the litmus test of self-esteem
With self-esteem is all right if:
- you reasonably trust the people, without the constant waiting trick.
- respect everyone with whom you come in contact in life.
- has a circle of close friends with whom you can confide.
- If you are interested in the other person's ability to take the initiative in the relationship.
- permits people to have an opinion different from yours, so do not try to convince all and always in the right.
- In the relationship to comply with its boundaries as well as the other person.
- to share the responsibility in the relations between the quality and the result of the relationship.
- Fully satisfied with the quality of friendship and love relationships.
- satisfied with the quality of the professional relationship.
- In dealing with others always see what the other person is either your mirror, or a teacher. Therefore, in relationships you develop.
Each of us has the opportunity to see a part of themselves in the relationship, which we did not notice, and analyze how to develop our self-esteem in the relationship.
3. Quality of Life
We get in life as much as allow yourself to receive, and allow as much as yourselves appreciate.
- you get so much money, how much it themselves assess.
- You spend most of their time at their own discretion when planning your day the best way for him.
- You are doing things you love, work wherever you like.
- You will see an image of a desired future and set goals for the movement to the desired year.
- You are targeting in any situation on the opportunities rather than obstacles.
- Do you pay attention to what has already been achieved, rather than what happened.
- You are filled with the most live the present moment.
- Do you know what gives you joy and pleasure, and give to it himself, without expecting that someone else should make you happy (oh).
- most of the time you feel a sense of gratitude for what you have.
- you build your life so that in the first place it is pleasing to you, without thinking "what other think of me."
If in your life all the items on a fairly good level, it means that self-esteem is all right!
And remember, self-dynamic, increase it or decrease you ask yourself!
Do not suffer samoUtsenkoy!
Increases from self!