The ideals of the eyes of a psychoanalyst
Why one person goes through life confidently and calmly, feels strong,
and the other is forever engulfed anxiety, expectation of failure?
Why one person sets goals and reaches them,
and the other spends years trying to figure out what he wants?
Why is one man a lot of friends,
and the other many diseases?
These and many other questions we can clear introduction to the concepts of self-real and I-ideal.
I-real - this is what a person at a given time, in terms of himself.
I-perfect - view of themselves as the ideal, how would a person want to become as a result of its features. I-ideal reflects the attributes that people would like to have, but so far has not. It is I that person values most and to which aspires.
I-ideal - one of the most important tools of personality development. He is both a motivation to move, and the benchmark, a compass to determine its position in space development and the foundation of self-esteem, maintain a sense of self-worth.
I-ideal appears in person at once. Newborn feels perfection, he sees the reflection of its exclusivity in the mother's eyes, its power is undeniable - it is his mother entirely. Later in his life include his father, and he comes with a whole set of rules and the limitations of the real world, which came to the child. The child begins to form a superego in which initially built and ego ideal.
superego - one of the three components (along with the Ego and the Id) of the human psyche, according to Freud's theory of psychoanalysis. Superego is responsible for the moral and religious human attitudes, norms of behavior and moral prohibitions, and is formed in the process of education of the person.
The functions of the superego is the conscience, self-observation and the formation of human ideals.
The source of the superego are important for baby adult, but formed, "done" superego of the father, or rather, from the male, father of the child's psyche. Simply put, any time and conscience and introspection, and ego-ideal in the mind of the kid one person - Dad. In the process of growing older child's ego, his ego gradually assigns these functions themselves. Since forming observing ego and the ego ideal - already as a part of the ego. A superego is the role of conscience.
- source I-real can be regarded as the parent of the individual, because it is my mother helps the child to understand what he is, as it were, "reveals" it.
- A I-perfect rises from the male part, because it shows the baby's father what he should wait the society.
A huge role in the perception of man himself, in his self-perception plays the distance from the I-real-up I-ideal, their quality and the topography of the psyche.
Let's look at the basic pathology of the ego ideal.
If the distance between the real and the ideal is extremely small or extremely large (felt as unattainable) - a person loses the motivation to develop can not feel their own strength and importance at the expense of personal achievement. After achievement - it is in fact an act of coincidence with the real I-I-ideal, or at least a sharp reduction in the distance between them.
The distance between the real and the ideal I is equivalent to helplessness. It can even be seen in the definition:
The helplessness - a state of man, his physical and mental powers, when he can not defend himself or to take the most ordinary measures to preserve their life and health, and are often in need of assistance to meet the basic necessities of life.
And the greater the distance between reality and the ideal, the more painful and felt helpless. It should also be noted that the very nature of the formation of self-real and I-ideal (from mom and dad) relates to the achievement of the unconscious ego ideal with the consent of the parent pair. If the parents are able to act coherently - Ideal seems achievable if the parents are infinitely far from each other - as far I will be real-and I-ideal. And the stronger the lifetime helpless their child.
How to protect yourself from impotence? She hides under the guilt. Guilt - feeling, of course, very unpleasant, but it makes the situation manageable. After all, what we are guilty, we are able and correct. And the very idea destroys helplessness.
The world a lot of people who take the blame for everything and always. For all answer, to blame. There is a saying - "to each barrel bung". If guilt is not enough, they will create a situation in which the pangs of conscience will be inevitable. There is always a reason ... And at the heart of all -. Unreachable fantasy of their own ideals.
Another option pathology ego ideal can be considered in the absence of the psyche. It can happen to us if the father in childhood was not quite even and the image of his absent or extremely impaired. In these circumstances, very high probability that either I-ideal, or the ability to self-observation will not be formed. As for conscience, it can be formed as part of the identification with the mother, but it (conscience) operation will be colored by the unpredictability and cunning causing constant concern to its owner.
The absence of the ego ideal is to keep a person in a constant state of insignificance, because the lack of scale, which can be used to assess their merits, stages of development - is an illusion of the lack of achievements as such. The psyche is designed so that we recognize the existence of anything, unless it is able to perceive anything. The fact that we do not take - does not exist. There is another option violation ego ideal - it can remain embedded in the super-ego even in an adult. This is one of the distinguishing features of narcissistic pathology, when the opinion of other people (in the mirror) is the only source of self-esteem.
Here we can probably talk about the absence of I-Real, which is confirmed by typical daffodils sense of inner emptiness. And, speaking of the absence of I-Real, will assume the absence of the mother, at least psychologically.
Do not forget that I am physically very real-and I-ideal - probably mentally, imaginary, though may relate to body image (as in anorexia nervosa). Thus, deficiencies of I-real can be replenished psychosomatic "shtop" hole in the self by means of varying severity of diseases. In this case, the main focus of treatment of psychosomatic illness is not a search of unconscious fantasy, symbolized by the disease, and "repair" dyad real-ideal, which is essentially the restoration of one of the main internal objects - parental couple.