School aggression. Where are the sources?
Unfortunately, the problem of aggression-school children is extremely relevant to contemporary society. Children react sharply on the most basic observations are not listening to the teacher and disrupt lessons.
Teachers and parents are wondering what to do and how to respond to the child's aggression. Thus forgetting that pronounced irritability is a response to the child's trouble.
How aggressive is formed?
It occurs, for example, in response to the offense, backed by the adrenal hormone - noradrenaline. Regular stimulation appropriately converts normal controlled our emotions into something more: the hatred of the abuser turns into aggression.
What is the source of children's aggression?
The reasons may come from a family - parents alcoholism (-ley), physical and psychological violence, lack of attention and love of parents, financial instability, inflated to the child's academic requirements. Or child adjustment problems to society - bullying classmates, the lack of close friends, neglect teachers. One can enumerate a long time, but the answer is unequivocal - the child is bad, he is disturbed, emotionally depressed and did not feel safe.
Responsibility for a child under a certain age are parents. They are responsible for his health, safety, and the development of a prosperous state. For example, we present the following situation.
Sometimes even under the best conditions in the family of the child sometimes lack of maternal care and paternal praise. He begins to feel unloved, unnecessary - respectively, the bad. For expression of interest in his own person and praise parents begin to learn from one five, to be the first at the Olympics. Every time pores over books, striving for the best score, and absorbing knowledge is not happy, but only for evaluation. there is a time, parents praise and love of the child only when it is round "Excellent." This situation becomes habitual, the child is afraid of getting unsatisfactory, increasing the feeling of anxiety and worry.
How to predict such situations?
What you need to do in order to know more about your child and help him in time?
Questions that should ask themselves every parent:
- than the interests of my child?
- How are his relationships with friends / classmates / teachers, and so on. Etc.?
- What is the relationship to the child himself?
- As far as he is satisfied with the state of affairs?
- Do something that suppresses / carries negative emotions to the child?
- As far as I (parent) picky about your child?
- How often tell their child about love for him?
- Does he like his environment / school / class?
- What are dreams of my son / daughter? Who wants to be in the future?
For any questions, you can through the following instruments:
- interview with the child,
- joint creative activities,
- the opinions of others (teachers, classmates).
It is important to remember every parent that the child's first important love, care and safety. A good education, the pursuit of development and confidence to the child itself does not come out of the walls of the educational institutions and highly qualified teachers, but because of family, a sense of self-sufficiency and knowledge that he is loved and important to their relatives and friends. Such children are different decency, responsibility and a good attitude to the people around. Few show negative emotions such as aggression, anger, anger.
In the end, I want to add that parents should spend more time with their children, to study them, to see how the child reacts to certain stimuli stimuli. If you notice an uncontrolled state of the child, should seek the help of a child psychologist.