About internal predator
Each of us, whether male or female, there is an "inner carnivore."
They are those parts of the soul, which throw us back when we develop.
They are those parts of the soul, which begin to destroy us when we listen to them too. An example of the "inner predator" can be a habit of criticizing ourselves, to depreciate his merits and achievements, judging themselves and their actions. Doubts may be internal predator.
Show "job," "inner critic."
I have repeatedly observed in his clients and how damaging excessive doubt. Man lives currently, does the job, which is well able to do. He is faced with a difficult task, seeing that it just is not right - need more time to solve this problem, may need to consult with another specialist. And somehow in that moment he begins to doubt himself, that he is really a good specialist, he is able to do your job well.
And these doubts and sometimes even leads to frustration - confidence, professionalism, confidence is destroyed. I noticed even at a friend's doubts about the choice of profession. It is developing a global disappointment that destroys.
What can we do, noting in his manifestations of this predator?
We should not "feed" this part of the soul.
We must not get stuck in these experiences.
I know, easy for me to say "do not", but it is not so easy. "The inner carnivore" is formed in us from childhood, on the basis of judgment, criticism, devaluation of our actions and the individual significant others. So of course, we can not stop this process at will. Especially if it is strong enough. We can observe this process as the start to criticize themselves, blame themselves, to devalue. Learn to notice the process earlier and earlier, before it develops and we dive into the painful experience of their own inadequacy.
If it is possible to observe the development experiences at the initial stage, our bodies can handle this process. While "inner carnivore" is not seized power over us, we can still realistically assess their abilities and capabilities. We're not ready to question their own inadequacy, we are mindful of their achievements and we have the strength to resist destruction.
But even if the self-destruction process is already underway, doubts are multiplied, you can try to stop him. I propose to recall the achievements, the skills, the abilities. If the self does not work (it may seem that all this is not enough), talk to those who can remind of your power. This can be friends, family, psychologist.
So, on his consultations and therapeutic meetings, I ask the doubters in itself: "And you really can not do it?". And people can honestly say that yes, they can. And the simple pronunciation of "I" returns strength and confidence. Or ask: "Remember that you are good at? In this work, at home, in other areas? ". Man begins to enumerate and with every word more and more wants to believe in yourself.
Our skills, especially if we are in the profession for more than two years, does not disappear. They can be destroyed in the event that a person will get a severe traumatic brain injury, which resulted in the collapse of its ability to act. Or when sick mental disease that destroys a person. Or if the person is a long time to drink - eventually the brain will work worse, and the activity will deteriorate. In other cases, our skills are still with us, no matter what happens. If we knew how to do something, do it for two years or more, we will be able to quickly restore these skills through twenty, thirty, forty years.
Therefore I like to support those who are familiar with the struggle against "internal predator". According to the experience of psychological work, activity tracking "inner predator" and practice to restore his confidence will lead to the fact that you will ponemnozhechku to become more sustainable. Little by little, you learn quickly to get out of the emotional "pit" and in some situations will no longer be in her "fall".
You are free to learn from resistance to "internal predator", is also very useful to work on his resistance to a psychologist. We are not always respected for themselves, do not trust their feelings and opinions. While we routinely play the "predator-victim" with yourself, it may be difficult to adjust to a more harmonious internal relations, it is difficult to remember the successes and achievements.
The presence of another person in the first stage of work on oneself in this topic will help you build on it while you still can not rely on myself. Well, if the other - a psychologist, as a psychologist is able to listen to people criticizing and invalidating itself. He is not trying to convince you and will not offer "pull yourself together". In contrast to the relatives and friends who are worried for us and want to quickly change our experience.