Stress in the modern world
We all too much. Information. Tasks. Choice. Never before was not so much about the sources of stress, and our chances to retain the presence of the spirit, it seems, are falling. To find a remedy for stress, try first popyat its causes.
Benefits to achieve happiness and stories about the beneficial meditations for body and soul every day are becoming increasingly popular. But the more we hear appeals to enjoy life and to find peace of mind, the more clearly emerges hidden behind them a message: we are restless, tense and pessimistic. 40% of respondents agree that it is best to remove the stress of alcohol. We do not agree with this method of 23%, but no one disputes that there is stress and it is necessary to get rid of it. "I love my job, but the department reduced the three rates, the amount of work on each increased significantly, I get tired so that I fall asleep on the way home," complains 42-year-old Vera, bookkeeper. Is it easier to the young? "I have a session is about to begin, I can not think about anything," - shrugs off questions 23-year-old Lena. A friend whose son graduate, it is better not to ask these questions: I think last year they both spent on pins and needles.
Too many changes
Where does the chronic anxiety, and why we have nowhere to hide from him? "It is an existential nature, it is an integral part of our human self-awareness", says family psychologist Inna Shifanova. But anxiety, says sociologist Vincent de Golzhak (Vincent de Gaulcjac), "requires the ability to pour her, express, including in the form of the work group on the great ideals that bring hope and promise a better future." The problem is that these ideals we seem. left. In the State Duma elections less than half of the voters participated in the September 2016. The turnout in the whole of Russia amounted to 47, 8%, and in Moscow and St. Petersburg, less than a third of residents voted. This means that the citizens do not trust public institutions and politicians. On and in private life they do not seem to find support. "Many of my clients complain that they can not cope with life, continues Inna Shifanova, adults are lost, because of that the children do not receive guidance, which makes them more vulnerable, in turn, ". The psychologist explains that "stable instability": "Over the past 25 years the country has changed several times. Changed social values, social lifts, the education system, one disappeared and there were new specialty. In this case, no one knows what will happen next. Uncertainty adds tranquility! "
"People are afraid of different things, but the fear is present at all levels of society - says the analyst Claude Alm wasps (Claude Halmos). - They are afraid of poverty, layoffs, inability to pay for their children's education. And no one dares to talk about it. Psychologists would cost to publicly explain that anxiety is normal, and those who are worried, are not sick. That they live badly not because they are vulnerable, but because their living conditions are impossible. "
The economic and social problems added one more trouble today: giperinformirovannost. Endless news feeds, social networks, e-mail and other instant messengers provide us with a variety of information in a non-stop increasing our stress. "News as a genre are arranged in such a way that they dominated the negative aspect - explains clinical psychologist and psihodramaterapevt Anton Vorobyev. - We get reports of terrorist attacks, see photos of victims, which cause strong emotions. Paradoxically, those who are further away from the center of events, often suffer more psychologically. The distance prevents them from reacting direct action: to help, to call an ambulance, bring up home in the event of transport difficulties. They have to be observers. It awakens their own traumatic experience, which is almost every one of us. After the terrorist attacks of messages hostilities, natural disasters appointment comes considerably more customers with panic attacks, depression. They amplified anxiety, they have nightmares or insomnia occurs. They do not associate their condition with recent events, it seems it is the sudden and unreasonable. I see a pattern here. " Information becomes a disaster, and it's not just bad news: it is unsystematic and too much of it. The bombardment of messages of all kinds plunges us into a state of frustration, because we can not manage this, not only the flow of even watch him. "
This confirms the 36-year-old Karina, lawyer IT-companies. "I was constantly distracted different messages, all less time to safely do their job. Even information that at first sight looks positive and useful, can be a source of stress. So I try to read e-mail only at the time that I established myself, but it does not always work. "
are bound to be happy?
In a society dominated by the view that we are responsible for their own happiness. But then, and his misfortune too. This simplification of positive psychology abstracts and personal growth techniques turns the formula "Unhappy? Own fault! ", Which, of course, does not bring relief to anyone. "My clients say articles written that you should be able to appreciate what we have. And to be happy here and now. For they feel that they are unable to fulfill this requirement, - says Inna Shifanova. - Between the recommendations, fantasies and reality there is a noticeable difference. " We do not have complete power over their lives; only accepting this truth, we can reduce the internal stress. "The number of calls that we have to answer is unlikely to decrease, - says Anton Vorobyev. - Today's customers are increasingly coming with the request: "Give a universal psychological techniques that will help me to cope with different challenges." They want to learn self-help maintain themselves. " Although antidote to existential stress no one, at our disposal, there are some tools: do everything that depends on us to make their imperfections and limitations of our resources to terms with mistakes and shortcomings, do not consider themselves the center of the world, unite with friends and like-minded people, to help others. Using them, we can make their lives better. And, most likely, a little calmer. Source: Psychologies №17 2017