Friends vs Psychologists
This is not just an article that tells about what is the difference between a friendly (friendly) conversation from work with a psychologist.
I have collected the most common people's views of himself as a psychologist. All that is described here, I've heard a million times by acquaintances, friends. I am sure that my clients and friends, and colleagues also encountered such statements. So, let's begin...
- it came to me as something a neighbor-girlfriend after a row with his pious hubby, complain. Then I began over tea discussing all the men in our apartment house. And it turned out that her husband is not so bad. In short, the left neighbor happy. I and without the formation of another psychologist.
- Yes, only because "my husband just broke my lip, and a neighbor of the site already broke the whole hand" relationship with her husband is better not become. Because "I just insomnia, but a neighbor even panic attacks", my condition did not improve. Because "I do not feel happy, but girlfriend is thinking about suicide," my life will not be adjusted. In general, if it means to be a psychologist to compare the client with the starving children of the Third World - that yes, you coped with the task.
- I do not know, after talking with me many friends easier. I and without the formation of another psychologist.
Yes, only because "I uttered, cried, and then I feel better," lamented the situation is out of the loop iterations. Otherwise I would have confession decreased each time. So what? I share with a friend - and, no longer repeated. More is not repeated - every time there is no reason to complain. In general, if it means to be a psychologist to stay vest - yes, you coped with the task. - I do not know, my advice to assist in the home of my friends and acquaintances. I and without the formation of another psychologist.
- Yes, just because I'm listening to "You know, do like this! And I would have done (and) that's it. I think you should do that, "I did not learn to make their own decisions and find yourself" tips and outs "to their problems throughout life. In general, if it means to be a psychologist to give a daily basis throughout the life of the client fish rather than a network for independent fishing - yes, you coped with the task.
- I do not know, we sat and feminine (masculine) talked, drank - and died down. I and without the formation of another psychologist.
- Yes, only because "today for a glass subsided," tomorrow morning "stacked drunk yesterday," itself will not be resolved. In general, to be a psychologist means "soul talk over a glass" - then yes, you coped with the task.
- I do not know, I have such an experience that I will always find what to advise not from scratch, but from their own experience.
- Yes, only because "instead of living their own personal experience I switch to someone else," I definitely will not be easier. In general, to be a psychologist to substitute experience - yes, you coped with the task.
- I do not know, it turned out that the girlfriend files for divorce, well, I'm just getting a divorce, so that it is easier. I and without the formation of another psychologist.
- Yes, only because "per square meter more than one with a bandaged eye, and one one-eyed - friend of mine," I will not be better oriented in space. In general, if it means to be a psychologist to say: "Yes, they are all the same, the goats, the torturers. How can we seriously, oh, we poor things, but we'll show them "- then yes, you coped with the task. - I do not know, I am able to maintain that no psychologist can not. A lot of my only weapon a person need? Sometimes just support. I and without the formation of another psychologist.
- Yes, only because I once again hear "You're right, I know you! You are strong! You get out of this, uh! ", The search for solutions does not accelerate. In general, if it means to be a psychologist to encourage "wanting in the loop" - yes, you coped with the task.
- I do not know, I know how to check that my girlfriend had turned off the way I said that no psychologist so can not. And people need to control. I and without the formation of another psychologist.
- Yes, just because I'm starting to play "victim-rescuer or victim-stalker," I will not, my older and I do not take responsibility for their lives. In general, to be a psychologist is to play the role of rescuer and (or) the pursuer, thus tying a customer for life - yes, you coped with the task.
Instead of a conclusion.
Of course, we need friends.
- Sometimes in a conversation with a friend, you can get an excellent psychological support.
- You can complain to the vest, and a friend to hear her words that I want to hear at that moment.
- It is possible for a man to talk to one another and feel the support because he has understood you.
But the psychological counseling is fundamentally different from normal conversation.
It is important to understand that all the answers to the questions tormenting us are inside us.
All exits from difficult situations within us.
- If we could prevent the "near or far" disturb our comfort, we will find a way to fix it.
- If you own or "with the help of others (parents, colleagues, friends, children)" we found the entrance to the problem, every way out of the problem situation, too, will find.
- If something we really want, make sure you have the resources within us to achieve this.
The task of a psychologist - not giving away tips, not become your vest or another, can not live your life for you, is not a substitute for experience.
Psychology Objective: to give the tools to access your internal resources, and if some resources are not sufficient, then provide the tools for the development of domestic resources.
And then most of the problems you can solve yourself, and achieving the objectives will be interesting and productive, but most importantly - often already-psychologist (if you have learned to use their own instruments issued by a psychologist).