Does psychotherapy eliminates the problems? Part 1
"whether psychotherapy will help get rid of the problem?" -
if you ask a question of a qualified therapist, it is unlikely to get an enthusiastic yes. And that's why.
The word to "get rid" means that problems can be thrown like a sack of garbage, or remove as a birthmark. That which we call a problem - it is usually a worrying part of our lives.
In our imagination, the problem may seem something of a eye on the potato - they say, here to cut it, and everything will be perfect. The rest will remain as it was.
If this view corresponds to reality, apart from therapists would exist psychosurgeons and psihokosmetologi. The nature of the psyche and personality is not such that it was possible to cut something, and everything else would remain the same.
Let's see what the problem is.
This kind of situation that causes us anxiety and discomfort due to the fact that our behavior in it constantly leads to undesirable results. And in some cases we do not realize that our behavior in general contributes to the problem - it can be perceived by us as extremely unfavorable external situation.
At this level of awareness of the formulation can be about such:
- "Why are honest people in our country do not earn money?"
- "How not to anger her husband, so that he did not beat me?".
It is clear that the objectives formulated in this way, can not be solved, neither alter the country, nor to alter a person is not in our power. So as long as the problem sounds like this, it is not a problem, but rather an unpleasant and unavoidable part of life, like the weather in St. Petersburg.
But if the adverse effects of the problem situation are growing, our psyche makes attempts to solve the problem. At this stage, many people come to a therapist (psychologist, psychoanalyst) for the first time and ask the same question with which I began this article.
And work with a therapist is likely to be successful if the man's relation to his problem can be described by the term "The optimal level of anxiety". This term is used in one of the books on psychotherapy for the situation in which a person experiences unpleasant emotions are so strong that no longer willing to tolerate the problem situation - but its resources have not so depleted and absorbed by this problem, so that he made a hopeless gesture.
As long as the person continues to use methods of short-term anxiety relief (to drink a bottle of beer or a glass of vodka, to complain to friends for the umpteenth time, to pass ten levels in a computer game), he is not ready to solve the problem - it trouble will not be enough high. Including so depending hinder the improvement of the quality of life - anxiety and discomfort enough to go into action, because the painful experience every time artificially removed.
If a person's anxiety level is optimal, and the perception of a problematic situation is still characterized by a external locus of control (ie the source of the problem is attributed to external circumstances), then the next step - is the detection source of the problem in their own actions. More exactly, in fact, the external circumstances affect our lives, but what is the result - it often depends on our actions.
No matter how cold it was winter, properly dressed man is not sick, if control
- the way he dressed;
- how much time he spends on the street.
So the next stage, a person using a therapist or self reformulates the problem:
- Now it does not sound "Why honest people in our country do not earn money?", But, for example, "Why do I have to miss the opportunity of good money?";
- is not "How not to anger her husband, so that he did not beat me?", And "Why do I live with a man who beats me?".
to advance to the next level will be for some time to interfere with mental protection.
On them, and on the next steps to address the problem
It is told in the second part of the article.