Adaptation for kindergarten
Adaptation for kindergarten -
a serious matter requiring the attention of both professionals in the kindergarten, and parents' child.
And the more knowledge in the field of psychology on the subject, the more questions arise.
The first question, which is raised by parents: "At what age to give the child to kindergarten?".
The classic version - after 3 years. However, in the 3 years of the child comes first age crisis, and this may make it difficult to adapt.
Now kindergartens are nurseries that accept children from 1 to 5 years. And there are parents who need these nurseries. However, many think that age is too early to socialize. After all, the goal and purpose of the kindergarten - the socialization of the child in society, rather than the creation of facilities for working parents.
- What is really good and useful for your child?
- And how to determine what "measure" this favor?
One of the parameters of "utility" is the speed and quality of the child's adaptation to kindergarten. And we (adults) in every possible way help the child adapt to unfamiliar surroundings and new sensations.
When it becomes clear that the child has adapted to the kindergarten? When the child is calm, without tears perceives life in kindergarten when he was happy to talk, that was good in the garden. But to this point, many shed a sea of tears and experiencing a lot of stress - many parents and children. How can parents help?
First of all, define your settings that interfere with your child's adaptation.
- Kindergarten - this is a terrible place where they can hurt my child.
This setting is important to change to a new children's garden - it is an important place where my child will first learn to live independently.
- My child - weak, and it can offend anyone.
New Installation: my child - normal, like everyone else. He can fight back if it hurt. And if he can not, then just learn in kindergarten.
- Kindergarten - a hotbed of infection.
New Installation: kindergarten - it's just another place with other microbes. It takes time to these microbes become familiar to my child.
- I - the best person that will always be the best for my child.
New Installation: I'm just a parent, my child have to ever enter into the world and get to know him, then will come a time of peace without me, and now have the opportunity myself to introduce him to the world.
- No one can replace me in the education of my child.
New installation: no one should have to replace in the education of my child, it is important that he saw and was able to live in a variety of people, talking to them.
These and other settings can interfere with the child's adaptation, influencing its perception of kindergarten. After all, he repeats (read) your condition. Another important factor in the adaptation of the child to the kindergarten - questions asked by the parents to the child on his return from the kindergarten.
- "Someone hurt you in the garden?".
This issue does not leave the choice, especially if it is given an alarming tone. The child, of course, the answer is "yes" ... and begin to focus in kindergarten on their grievances. Begin "collecting obidki". It is better to ask the question "who are you now playing in the garden?". He directs the mind and memory of the child to find the positive contact in the future.
- "You have to eat in the garden?".
This question is posed in an alarming tone, causing the child victim's reaction and the child often says "no" and cries or makes the appropriate person suffering. And pathetic that hardens as a model of sacrifice in life. It is better to ask the question "What do you eat tasty in cages?". Then the child in the future will notice positive and delicious moments.
- "You're crying now?".
This is an obvious question about the answer is "yes." Better to ask: "What a joy it was today?". It will direct the thoughts and feelings of the child on the day positive.
- "Did you miss me?".
This is also a question about the answer is "yes." Child and would never say "no". But in fact he could not remember the parents in the kindergarten. It is better to ask the question "Are you happy that we are together?" or, conversely, to express the feeling, "I'm so happy that you are!".
- "Again was a nasty mess? And you have not eaten?".
In this and similar questions have obvious negative attitudes against the kindergarten. She obviously does not help the child to adapt to a new society.
If the child is crying and does not want to kindergarten, you can put him at the table, as an adult, and to tell him her story difficult to adapt - not necessarily to the kindergarten, but to something new. Tell him that you helped at the time of hardship and despair. Where you took power. The child feels all wrong. Unlikely to understand, but to feel and take for himself the tone of optimism and strength.
In order that the child liked kindergarten,
important to the parents themselves to love kindergarten.