How to increase self-esteem? Five ways to find inner harmony
What does high self-esteem?
Self-esteem - it is our view of ourselves. People with high self-esteem mood fluctuates less, which means they are less likely to become hostages of their own emotions. It is important to know your strengths and weaknesses, to accept ourselves as we are. Having high self-esteem, we are in every situation to maintain a sense of self-esteem, do not bow to difficulties and criticism, quick to recover from failure.
On our view of ourselves affect children's experiences, relationships, and their own achievements. It is important to remember that self-esteem is constantly evolving.
What's wrong with low self-esteem?
People with low self-esteem overly critical of themselves and are prone to perfectionism. Those who do not appreciate yourself, always need support and encouragement from the sidelines.
But even this is not enough, because people with low self-esteem can not be a reliable psychological support for themselves. If we have low self-esteem, we are always afraid of something, we do not believe that is good enough, and endlessly criticize their own actions.
"People - the only creatures on earth that can prevent their own activities. The ability to be a hindrance itself is acquired, we are not born with it. " Michael Hebron, writer.
Arrogance may not be a sign of high self-esteem, but quite the contrary. People with low self-esteem are often rebellious and time-servers, to blame others in everything because feelings make them "hostages." They are constantly blocking your anger and do not give vent to emotions, they are surrounded by an aura of self-pity. Fortunately, there is always the opportunity to regroup.
How to increase self-esteem?
1. Engage in self-awareness.
Be honest with yourself. Think about how you treat people and opportunities that gives you a fate. Remember who was your support as a child? Who gave you positive, and who - the negative? What are the successes and failures you remember? Who, apart from you, they are interested in? Who was there in difficult times and who rejoiced in your victories? Did you do any creative work? Or you have had a difficult childhood? How does all this affect you? What lessons have you learned from the past?
By answering these questions, you can understand the origins of their self-esteem. The more you learn about yourself, the more accurate will be your self-esteem, and the closer you are to a state of inner harmony.
2. Recognize that you are not all can change.
We must learn to accept ourselves as we are. For example, you can not change the parents born in another place, to change the height or skin color.
Similarly, we have to take the loss to move on. Learn how to process their grief, to find joy in life. Acceptance of self - is a vital component of self-esteem.
"No one can make you feel humiliated without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt, former First Lady of the United States.
3. Make friends with your inner voice.
Learn to listen to what you say to yourself: positive, constructive and beneficial or negative, destructive and harmful. Allow yourself to be perfect, do not expect perfection in themselves and others. Learn to accept compliments, remember what you said to the people whom you consider a model of self-esteem. Praise yourself and do not be engaged in self-flagellation.
4. Rejoice yourself.
By purchasing an expensive car, you take care of it: buying gasoline, wash it and go through regular maintenance. Look at you with the same point of view. Get enough sleep, exercise, take care of yourself and eat well. Do what makes you happy. Reward yourself for any victory, and tell yourself compliments, making something good. Enjoy a relaxing bath, a glass of wine or a book.
5. Accept help from others.
Studies show that we have a better feel ourselves in the presence of strong social ties. Even if you are an introvert, it is important to establish links needed to replenish the soul energy. Do not be afraid to ask others for help, ask for advice and talk about their feelings.
Keep a record of all the good things you say, and hang up the notes on the refrigerator or on a desk. Surround yourself with people who are able to listen, they will help to relieve eye strain. Look for hugs, handshakes, touching. If the situation demands, asking for professional help.
Based on the book "Rescued Hostages".