Which road leads to the Statement?
The founders of Rome, Romulus and Remus, abandoned by their wicked uncle in swift water of the Tiber; ancient Hebrew prophet Moses, miraculously saved by the daughter of the Egyptian Pharaoh; lord of the Olympian gods, Zeus, was almost swallowed up as an infant by his father Cronus ... Most cultural traditions carry the myths, legends and fairy tales that tell of children who managed to escape the danger and go through many tests before to realize itself and become a hero. These figures perfectly illustrate the concept has gained immense popularity in the modern psychology: each of us is the child we once were and which prevents itself manifest our current adult subsistence. Recognize and release this child means to recognize and unleash our inner essence, spontaneity and creativity.
Release your future
Back in the 40s of the last century, the largest Swiss psychologist Carl Gustav Jung (Sarl Gustav Jung) drew attention to the fact that in various mythological systems divine child often play the role of savior. Jung later described his own unusual experience - familiarity with the child within yourself, which has had a tremendous impact.
"ARCHETYPE child to express the most powerful human desire for self-realization."
In trying to recall their childhood games, he felt that the memory of it speaks in his soul an unusual thrill and warmth. "Ah, - I said to myself - all this is still alive in me. The kid in me is not dead and full of creative energy, which is so lacking in me. But how can I find a way to it? "Adult for me, it seemed impossible to return to their eleven. But there was no other way, and I had to find a way back to his childhood with his childish. It was a turning point in my life. "* Meeting with the inner child allowed Jung to create a theory of archetypes, according to which the collective unconscious is made up of structural elements, symbols that express the most fundamental relationships in society - it is they who, in the opinion of a psychologist, and underlie all mental processes and emotions, causes and meaning of which It is not always clear to ourselves. In this system embodies the archetype of the child's vitality, ways and means that are inaccessible to the intellectual understanding, and expresses the most powerful human desire - the desire for self-realization. According to Jung, "child - a potential future" **.
* CG Jung "Memories, Dreams, Reflections." Harvest 2003.
** CG Jung "divine child". AST 1997.
The concept of "inner child" psychologists have adopted several directions. "Despite numerous raskhozhde-tion between scholars of different schools of psychology, - says Svetlana Krivtsov existential psychotherapist - they interpret the term as a synonym for emotional openness to the world, the spontaneous impulses and the ability to enjoy. In the existential analysis of this concept corresponds to the ability to be close to himself. "
Among the scientific concepts, to some extent absorbed the idea of the inner child, is best known for the theory of transactional analysis, created in the 60s of the last century by the American psychotherapist Eric Berne (Eric Berne).
According to Byrne, in our inner world, there are three states of "I": the Parent, laying down rules, Adult, which analyzes the information and solve problems, and the child reacts emotionally to the world and themselves. According to Berne, "in many respects child - one of the most valuable components of the personality, as it brings in a person's life is that this child brings to a family life: joy, creativity and charm" ***.
"All of us are children, Soslan into adulthood."
In the 80s, the American psychologist John Bradshaw (Jonn Bradshaw) took the next step in understanding the true relationship with our children, "I am." In particular, he believed that all of us are children, exiled into adulthood. Bradshaw developed a psychotherapeutic method of communicating with the inner child, enriching it with new content concept.
He believed that the inner (or any) the child grows and develops, while passing the same personal development stages: infancy, early childhood, preschool age, and so on. At some point we cease to feel it, leave it, forget about it, causing him thus deeply traumatic. Bradshaw calls abandoned inner child "wounded child". From the stage at which the internal development of the child, we break the link with it, it depends on what problems we experience in our adult lives. Bradshaw technique is to know at what point we turned away from the children's own "I", go back and re-establish contact.
Around the same time to the "inner child" concept applied and American psychoanalysts Hal and Sidra Stone (Gal and Sidra Stone), believe that the child lives in our inner world, along with many other sub-personalities (incarnations): Ambitious, a tyrant, a defender, actor ... Based on the ideas of the Italian psychoanalyst, founder of psychosynthesis Roberto Assagioli **** (Roberto Assagioli), believes that these sub-personalities provoke internal conflicts and prevent the manifestation of our true "I", Hal and Sidra Stone developed a method of "female friction dialogue ", whose purpose - to prevent mental discomfort by making contact with each of the sub-personalities alone and in the first place - with our inner child. *** E. Berne "People who play the game." A modern writer, 2006. **** psychotherapy method, which consists in the compilation, interpretation and explanation of the information obtained in psychoanalysis.
a conversation with
Despite the different visions of space inner child in adult life, psychologists agree on one thing: it is necessary to communicate with. To do this, it is very important to learn how to talk to him. we often refer to the process of dialogue with themselves ironically, but actually such conversations - our deep need. "Even as an adult, each of us is in need of care - says Svetlana Krivtsov. - Therefore, it is important to remember that close to each of us there is always a dedicated and friendly minded people - is ourselves. "
We are brought up in a culture that teaches us to meet their needs in the warmth and tenderness of their own. However, it is not only natural, but necessary. "Try to refer to himself as a benevolent elder would appeal to tired and unhappy younger - suggests Svetlana Krivtsov - tell your inner child all the words that you would like to hear from my mother or other loved one emotionally. Have pity on yourself after a hard day - and you will feel the warmth and peace. Indulging in it, unwilling or embarrassed to lead with your inner child "I" such talk, we run the risk of "flooding" their expectations of the people of our environment, which are able to give us warm. "
Rarely who had a perfect childhood - without conflicts, emotions and traumas. Therefore, the need to reconnect with your inner child with a view to encourage him, to comfort, to understand there is in each of us. Talk to your child's "I" - is not the only form of internal dialogue, however, is perhaps one of the most important. And start communicating with them is worth it to her. Center for Psychological Counseling and Psychotherapy "Genesis" t. (495) 792 7014.
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Carl Gustav Jung "divine child" AST, 1997. Collection of lectures, articles and essays founder Jung's analytical psychology, in which he explores the deep foundations of the human psyche. Work "divine child" - only one of them.
Svetlana Krivtsov - author of several books; one of the last - "How to find agreement with himself and the world" (Genesis, 2004).
5 steps to meet him,
Trying to talk to your inner child, try not to pretend to be them, but feel it. This will help exercise that offers existential psychotherapist Svetlana Krivtsov.
To contact him, put both hands on the solar plexus or on site at chest level. Close your eyes. Ask yourself: What do I feel? Why would I want to? Listen to yourself.
Talk to your inner child, or write him a letter. Tell him about yourself since you began to grow, share doubts and discoveries. At first, such an exercise can be confusing: perhaps this is due to the fact that you find it difficult to take your inner child.
If you feel that you are a long time as if something is missing, have pity on yourself - your inner child. You've lost a lot of time over the years not to herself. You've spent a lot of strength on some important things, you are exhausted, and the person in this state becomes very brittle. Tell yourself a few sympathetic words, and you will feel like returning vitality. Learn to be a mother yourself - one that understands and regrets can give heat. (To then, over time, learn to be himself his own father, that is a fair judge.) If too much emotion, just draw them. Then ask your inner child in order to draw an adult who you have become. You can ask him to draw what he calls anger, pride, happiness or sadness.
Take a sheet of paper, write in one column what you are proud of, and in another - the list of their children's injuries. Very often, what we are proud of, grows out of what we have received less in childhood. Forever chasing new achievements, we often can not stop, and it is likely that by the never-ending pursuit of all new accomplishments motivates us the most resentful "inner child", which you so long ago did not pay attention.