One or two of candy?
He says he has to leave for fifteen minutes and that if Max during this time will not eat candy, you get another one. If he can not resist, just call the bell and he will be allowed to eat the treat, which lies in front of him. But in this case, the candy will be only one.
The camcorder captures the terrible suffering of Max. First, he fidgets in his chair, and then tries to look the other way. Then he again embraces a desire to eat candy, and he desperately swinging her legs and even covers the eyes with his hands, but would not see the goodies. But he keeps. As promised, fifteen minutes later the professor returns, congratulates Max and gives it in addition to the first second candy that the baby takes, beaming with pleasure.
Many of the children who participated in this experiment, unlike Max did not pass the test. Some give up in the first minute. Others managed to survive longer, sometimes licking around the entire table coveted pastes. But they, too, still surrendered before the expire fifteen minutes ...
Laboratory of Prof. Michel about 30 years followed the subsequent fate of the children who took the test. The results of this work have turned the idea that it is important to achieve happiness. * First of all, the link between IQ (IQ) and the ability to control their desire to eat the treat was very weak. Some of the smartest children surrendered faster than those with IQ score was mediocre. Children who have not been able to lose sight of the purpose and use your imagination to confront his request, were much better suited to life as a teenager: they had more friends, more of them praised the teachers, they are better able to cope with stress, more openly expressed his position and received higher marks - even with low IQ **.
They are better exams and acted in more prestigious universities. Finally, they got the best positions, and they had far fewer problems with alcohol and drugs at the age of 32 years than in those four (!) Years could not resist the temptation. It turned out that the success can be predicted more accurately than on the basis of the child's level of intelligence, but on the basis of its ability to defer receipt of awards available for something better in the future, that is, the ability to control their impulses, which brings out the test with fruit candy.
This fact is very encouraging. After all, it is not easy to increase IQ. But each of us, as our children can develop character, strengthen willpower and ability to learn to look absently at his desire to get immediate satisfaction. Yoga and meditation bring the ability to watch their desires and define their borders, "Yes, I did have deployed thigh muscles burn. I want to change the position, but I can take a breath, to direct your breath to the point of voltage and see what will happen next. " Gradually the habit of self-control also applies to everyday life. When children are praised for their efforts and persistence, rather than the mind, is the best way to help them develop properly. And adults helps to know that candy is not easy to get a second to anyone, sometimes you have to turn away, to resist. But in proportion as we learn to be benevolent spectators of their own desires, they become more docile and "manual".
* W. Mischel, Y. Shoda, M. Rodriguez "Delay of Gratification in Shildren". Science, vol. 244 1989. ** A. Duckworth, M. Seligman "Self-discipline Outgoes IQ in Predicting Academic Performance of Adolescents". Science, vol. 16, 2005.