"See the world through different eyes"
Interview with Leonardo Arena
Leonardo Vittorio Arena (Leonardo Vittorio Arena) - an expert on Eastern philosophy, university lecturer Urbino (Italy). Compiled and commentator of the book of oriental parables "Magic Pagoda and other stories about how to find happiness within themselves" ( "La pagoda magica e altri racconti per trovare la felicita dentro di se", Piemme, 2008).
Psychologies: are you talking about happiness as a mental condition. That is, as something that is accessible to everyone. Why then is happiness so hard to achieve?
Leonardo Arena: the main difficulty lies in the fact that happiness - not a goal that must be achieved, and the path. It is difficult to find happiness, because we are accustomed to imagine him as something to aspire and what is not. Therefore, we feel frustrated, unable to find happiness, because we are looking for it somewhere outside of ourselves. So, happiness is identified with the achievement of a greater good. And in many parables, going back to Taoism, it said that we already have everything you need for happiness.
You are encouraged to seek a hidden treasure within us. How do we start this way?
L. A .: Lao Tzu said, without going to court, it is possible to understand the world. Search for hidden treasure always begins with awareness. It can occur in sleep or due to a chance meeting: we notice that we lacked something. We do not know exactly what it is. Although the subject of the search is unknown, we are looking in different directions until they realize: Search - a new acquisition opportunities that we have, and so have. In fact, nowhere to go. The fact that we are already with us. Success, money, career in no way connected with the feeling of happiness?
L. A .: No. We are committed to success, but then, having reached it, do not feel satisfied, because we know: it is not what we are really looking for. But this is not a defeat, because the main thing - to observe a moment of crisis, to understand that our aspiration for hiding an attempt, albeit erroneous, find themselves. And here you can move on.
Sufis live by the principle: "Be in the world but not of this world" ...
L. A .: Yes, a person can deal with what you like case, set himself any targets, but if he does not have inner freedom, if it depends on what has been achieved, his life would be meaningless. All the matter in the way of understanding life. A person may be very successful and remain itself. It is important to be aware of: true happiness - is not the goal, but how we are going to target.
Today, many lament that they lacked something, and Taoism calls to be content with what you have. How to reconcile these contradictions?
"Let others can achieve the purpose for REACH ME - it does not mean that his life was a success bigger than mine."
L. A .: be content - does not mean not to have aspirations and desires. But if it was not possible to be born a crane, there is no need to envy the Crane. Those who live the dream of being a rock star, will ever be disappointed ... It is often said: if I had a bigger house, getting me on TV, if I had a love, a better job, I would be happy. But arguing, I'll deny myself in happiness because, linking it with the achievement of a good, I will always depend on others. There is a parable. Horse stables complains that its value is less than the other horses. But when the others are sent to war, she realizes how lucky she is. I can not be jealous of the other, because they do not know what his fate. Everyone lives his life. Let the other can achieve the goals that are not available to me, - it does not mean that his life has gone more than mine. Many Eastern history call benefit from the opportunities of the present. As seen signals that gives us life?
L. A .: The answer is always in front of us, but our expectations and our schemes prevent us from seeing them. We like the character of one of the Buddhist parable which does not notice that the door to the prison, where he spent many years, open, and remains a prisoner. Likewise, we make the same mistakes again and again experiencing the situations that hurt us. We feel out of place in this or that situation? Nevertheless, we are committed to it. This inevitably leads to psychosomatic disorders, headaches, fatigue, anxiety, ... Take for example, career development, often forcing us to compromise, that some part of our being will not accept. In a word, with people or situations of a certain type confronts us is not the case. We can not impose on others the blame for that unhappy, only we ourselves - the masters of their destiny.
In one parable tells of a man who walked through the night to visit a friend, but just before it turns back to the door. Happiness - is the ability to change course, to seek new ways?
L. A .: Yes, realizing at the same time at every moment, what we really want. Most of us would certainly have to visit a friend, once a spent force in the whole path of the night. And the hero of this story turns back, because in the snowy night, when he walked to the other, he had already experienced those sensations, which sought. He saw the beauty of the night landscape - a friend he has seen no reason. Even more than that: a conversation with him could disturb his peace. In general, to be happy, sometimes you have to be able to stop at the right moment ...
L. A .: Exactly. Having tasted something to aspire to, your day can be ended. If we talk about everyday life, which means not abuse food, pay attention to the signals our body that it is enough. And do not even have to take on all things at once, be too active. This is a call for moderation - not to obedience, and to ensure that each time to understand what is really good for us and what is not.