Why in lines, some of us do not keep your distance?
Sometimes we find ourselves in the queue when we want to pay for an apartment, rent a car from the register, to enroll the child in the section ... But if some of us move forward calmly, knowing that the rate of advancement does not depend on us, the others begin to emphasize, literally lying on standing in front of person. Why is this happening?
"Miscellaneous sense of the size of personal space"
Catherine Dubovsky, a social psychologist. So behaves person who sees challenges ahead only as an annoying obstacle. He was annoyed and makes every effort to be "eliminated". By the way, our behavior in line is comparable with the way we tend to behave in life in general. In addition, each of us have our own sense of personal space sizes. If you violate it, we feel discomfort. To resolve the situation, it is worth trying, not offended, calmly and politely ask a neighbor to keep your distance. "
"We do not want to tolerate egalitarianism"
Yuri Frolov, a psychotherapist. The queue annoying not only because it causes us to lose valuable time, but also the feeling that it is mechanically leveled the personality and interests of the individual - if it is mixed with the crowd. A feeling of egalitarianism was especially characteristic of the Soviet period the queue (and many remembers about it ...). To save yourself and your peace of mind, try to physically move away from the situation, for example, move to step aside and wait for their turn at this distance. "
"Immaturity and low self-control level"
Tatiana Rebeko, Jungian analyst. Interestingly, the jostling in queues usually occurs in the tail, but closer to the top when the coveted window quite close. This mechanism is described by German psychologist Kurt Lewin (Kurt Lewin): the closer the target, the more difficult to restrain us, to behave appropriately. It attracts us like a magnet, and the annoying getting any obstacle. It is clear that push, crowd, in every possible way to express their dissatisfaction, irritation, aggression characteristic of people with a low level of self-control. More adult, mature person is much easier to carry a forced standing in line. "