Why do we need a smile?
How many times a day we smile? It all depends on the person and the circumstances. But are we always smile to express the pleasure? The smile is complex and has much to us to discover. However, unlike the laughter that takes scientists for twenty years, the smile - the finest expression of human emotions - a little studied. When we smile the first time? Between the 30th and 45th day of life at the latest - in three months. Kid smiling to express joy at the sight of a familiar person, from the melodic sound, or after a meal. Then, imitating the expression of an adult, he learns to put a smile in different emotions. American psychologist Paul Ekman (Paul Ekman) has allocated 19 smiles, including grimaces of fear, disdain or irony. Smile - it is primarily the brain process. It all starts with an excitation anterior hypothalamic area (a rear zone of the hypothalamus stimulation causes dissatisfaction reverse reaction). From there, the flow of nerve impulses transmitted to the limbic system, responsible for our emotions. Muscle tone weakens, appears contented expression on his face. To laugh, we will use 15 muscles; to smile, they need no less. However, different smiles uses different muscles! For example, with a polite smile - simple stretching of the lips - reduces zygomaticus major muscle, and the broad and joyous smile uses the circular muscle responsible for movement of the eyelids. And the muscles around the eyes can be reduced only inadvertently, when we really feel pleasant feelings. And so it is impossible to confuse the forced grimace and a smile of happiness. Smile - it's a different language, a way to express what we do not say the words. Smile - not a feeble semblance of laughter, it reveals different worlds: a happy smile in love, shy smile timid man, insinuating smile seducer or detached smile of Buddha ... We chose six smiles and invite you to get to know them.
A friendly smile
The one that we were met by smiling greeting or a smile of courtesy, at the same time brings together and keep some distance, can make so that we suddenly felt at ease, even if there is nothing to connect us to the man who smiles to us. "I always remember the smile of women working in our bakery, - says 36-year-old Alexander. - When I was a little girl came to her for the bread, her smile gave me great joy. " This smile is not facing directly to our inner-his world, it is addressed to the wrong person, who we are, and that the general and universal, whose image we are all united. "A sincere smile affects us something very important - our innate susceptibility to kindness," - emphasizes the Dalai Lama, in his book "Ethics in the New Millennium" (Sofia, 2004).
It is not always have a smile expresses pleasure, sometimes she can talk about our desire to pull away. Shy smile may appear on the lips when we made some mistake and we were overcome by a feeling of shame. This smile-a comment that speaks of our confusion. "Distressed smile shows that we are trying to cope with the emotions rather than just endure them," - explains the French psychotherapist Catherine Emel-Perissol (Catherine Aimelet-Perissol). If our smile has the power in human relationships, it is partly because it shows ... about our fragility.
The brave smile
It gives us confidence Forcing himself to smile, we thus remember our successes, not failure. "While working on his smile and accustoming himself to speak in public, I believed in myself," - says 48-year-old Lina. Smiling helps to overcome stress and to meet changes calmer. "I did not know how to ask vneochered-term leave, - says 27-year-old Ivan. - I decided to go to the head with a smile. And it worked! "A smile brought a smile back ...
We are protected in situations of uncertainty smile - our first weapon, a way to relax, which helps to keep our own aggressive impulses and to neutralize the aggression that may be experiencing in relation to our other guests. This sign strain relief used in all cultures. "When I walk into a room where no one know it instinctively begin to smile as if I want to protect themselves," - says 25-year-old Valentina.
a conspiratorial smile
Unites us in a conspiratorial smile suggests that people have a common past, they experienced something important together. She brings a deep understanding, intimacy with a few select people. "During shooting I like when it is possible to catch a conspiratorial smiles and glances of strangers on the street" - he says traveling the world 25-year-old photographer Stephen from Norway. A smile that he was able to capture on film - the best memories of his travels.
The one that wins us German ethologist Irenaus Aybl-Aybsfeldt (Irenaus Eibl-Eibsfeldt) proved that the smile is part of the ritual of seduction around the world. Among the Europeans smile - is that women value most in men (37%); she even look ahead (13%) *. Smile at the same time encouraging and comforting. "Although he did not have any qualities that I like, it won me the gentle and playful smile, - says 33-year-old photo editor Lisa, who lived for a year with his friend. - I felt completely disarmed and completely trusted him. "