Why do we dream of glory

Why do we dream of glory

Since the beginning of the new television season, thousands of teenagers are sent to the views in the hope to become the participants of the reality show. Among the young there is a fierce struggle on the outskirts of the glory, for that matter, and among 30-40-year olds, who will lead the news in prime-time, who will give a literary prize, who will reign on the political scene or to gather full stadiums ... The desire to be a star It has never been so sharp, strong and universal.

Sociologist Francois de singles (François de Singly) do not see anything surprising: "Wanting fame - so just allow yourself to dream. As a young man, I desperately wanted to be on stage, but did not know how to sing! Those who today makes its way to the "American Idol", do it a thousand times more energetic and successful of us. I do not dare to tell anyone about his dream, this was simply impossible to admit. That's the whole difference: today everyone has the right to declare their desire to become famous for. Read the blogs. I once had a beautiful tetradochku, where I wrote about every champion of cycling, who are addicted, but I never tell anyone it did not show. Today, I'd have a blog and a group of those who like to read it! "

The search itself

Well, every teenager dreams of glory? Anyway, a lot of these guys, age explains psychologist Yuri Frolov: "Adolescents often manifest this desire, because it stems from a desire to find himself. To feel its worth, the young man must be the recognition of others. People are adults, mature personality can rely on themselves, on the experience of their victories and mistakes. " But not all young people are moving from vision to action. "I never went to the scene, but became famous sociologist, - says Francois de singles. - There has been a kind of transfer: my thirst for fame was realized in science. I think if you're in the 15 years of desperate dreams of glory, you have a real chance to forty years to achieve recognition in the other area ... "

The need for love

It seems that all of us in one way or another dream of becoming a star. According to the analyst, Jean-David Nazo (Jean-David Nasio), the expectation of glory individually and arises mainly from the history of relations with the mother. "The need for public recognition speaks primarily about the fact that a person needs love, equal in strength of maternal love, - says the analyst. - After all, it is thanks to her the first time we have felt his uniqueness. " But it can also occur in those who have been rejected by the early, who felt abandoned and helpless. In this case, the dream of fame - is an unconscious call to his mother, who underestimated us.

But the need for recognition and love does not explain the phenomenon fully. In an effort to become famous can appear and contempt for other people (sometimes unconscious), and the desire to push back the possible opponents, and hope to break out of a faceless environment. "This explains the aggressiveness, hostility, anger, which often can be found in striving for glory, - adds Jean-David Nazo. - And the hand of man are often unexpected, being masked by the openness, generosity, kindness - is also very real. "

The fame, fame mirage

"Glory has always accompanied those who have done something meaningful, he succeeded or accomplished the feat, a good thing - a psychologist Dmitry Leontyev said. - Sometimes it is black, bad reputation: so, alas, has achieved its goal Herostrat that in order to go down in history, burned one of the seven wonders of the ancient world - The Temple of Artemis at Ephesus. In the twentieth century with the emergence of media design desire to become famous - that is something to outdo the other, to create something unique, to perform the feat, set a record - increasingly displaced by a painful desire to put himself on display audience of millions. As a result, nowadays fame is not identical to the present fame and is not an indicator of merit. However, millions of people are chasing mirages, and those who manage to snatch a piece of fame, then often deeply unhappy ... "

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The thirst to conquer the

Some analysts believe the desire for fame innate impulse originating from each of us in the womb. So Alfred Adler, one of the most famous disciples of Freud, the founder of individual psychology, called this tendency to conquer space objects and a desire for excellence. He saw in it the main motive force of our behavior, because thanks to it we can compensate for the childhood inherent in each of us the unconscious feeling of inferiority. * "Adler believed that because of this feeling and there is a desire to overcome, excellence, success, - says psychologist Dmitry Leontyev. - Later, he came to the conclusion that the desire for success is still the primary and universal, and inferiority do not feel anything, but only those who do not reach (chronic experience of this condition can develop into an inferiority complex). "

First, to become famous, and then think how to express themselves, where to go ...

We are talking about the need to be successful in dealing with any life tasks. "The way we implement this demand determines our way of life - continues to Dmitry Leontyev. - Those who assert themselves at the expense of others is the desire, according to Adler, takes painful form - in this he sees the origins of crime, alcoholism, drug addiction, mental disorders personality. The best way - cooperation with other people on the basis of common goals. "

Lack of patience

Modern Western society, with its intrusive advertising success creates the illusion that it is not only achievable, but just need to start living in the present. Ambitious and energetic young people, who have taken a sample of Victoria Bonyu ( "Dom-2") or Sergei Svetlakova (WHC), in the end, quite honestly say that the main thing - to be seen and noticed. First to become famous, and then think about how to express themselves and work to do. With this understanding, the glory is not seen as a result, but as a starting point. According to Francois de singles, turning it upside down was due to the current turmoil in the relationship with time: "We are no longer exists skills development logic. We learn incredibly long ... and finally reach to the professionalism of 30-35 years, and by age 50 it's all over. If at this age the person has lost his job, it is very difficult to return to duty. So that young cancel this prospect dreams of glory quickly, and I understand them! In my opinion, this is a kind of unconscious form of protest. "

"Social recognition", "successful society" requires us to flaunt their "I", to impose it to others to perceive us (and we do not perceive themselves) as the losers. We are told that to become famous is easy. As a result, everyone wants to jump into the "social elevator" and no one wants to climb the stairs. Theoretically, the teenager has a roughly equal chance to go on stage once or go to MSU, but in reality it is only an illusion of the road, open to all. On upper floors is very narrow passage. Young people experiencing similar pressures, feeling increasingly strong need to use your imagination. Imaginary glory compensates for their lack of it in reality.

* A. Adler "Sketches of individual psychology." Cogito Center 2002.

"TV Screen gives the illusion of immortality"

Why do we dream of glory

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It should send an SMS or email to the editor of the program - and a chance at a dream come true appears each. About that, what we are looking for on TV, thinks Alexander Monks, chief editor of the popular TV Guide "Antenna-Telesem". "Field of Dreams", "Star Factory", "Minute of Fame", "Let Them Talk", "Fashion sentence" ... With all unlike formats idea producers of television programs in general one: viewers need new, to unknown persons yesterday, with whom he be able to identify themselves. We, in Russia, of course, are not alone in finding its reflection on the TV screen. So that was invented in the Dutch television program "Big Brother" ( "House-1, -2," recalls this format) conquered England, Italy, Argentina, Australia, Germany, Switzerland and the United States. As the American reality show "Lost" (the Russian equivalent - "The Last Hero"). One of the reasons for the success of such projects is that viewers see on the screen the same people, like themselves, and therefore, someone might say to himself: "Oh, if that Mary got her moment of glory with these wacky tricks, too if it equals Parfenov talking to himself, then at least I have something ... "Does not seem to have a lot of years of work, the main thing - to be on the screen, guess the letter, play the harmonica - and you're a star, and the world at your feet. However, there is a more optimistic explanation for the popularity of such programs: we are alive, yet remember about us. Any member of TV field of miracles remains in family legends. About it will say on the common dinners after many years, to review the record of the most-program, kindly laugh at the clumsiness "TV star" ... In a sense, it will always be. "