He wants to celebrate the New Year in the company
"Take to the desire of a teenager with respect, knowing that this will bring you a new alarm and concern" - advises psychologist Galina Burmenskaya age.
* Galina Burmenskaya - Associate Professor of Moscow State University. MV Lomonosov Moscow State University, co-author (with A. and A. Karabanova Liders) of the book "Age-psychological approach in counseling children and adolescents" (SAG, 2007).
"The desire to spend New Year's Eve without a parent comes to children at 14-15 years, sometimes earlier, when communication with peers is their main need. Festive night, for the first time held outside the home, a special event - an exciting, meaningful, joyful. And when parents agree to let go of his son or daughter to friends, children feel that they are regarded as mature enough to trust them. Release easier for those parents who have developed a close relationship with the child, who is familiar with his friends and does not expect them to unpleasant surprises like hard liquor, "grass", search of adventure in the night city. Assess the degree of risk is more difficult for those whose son or daughter wants to celebrate New Year with unfamiliar or does not inspire confidence in his friends, and especially if their child is very prone to risky behavior: impulsive, ready to do anything for the sake of argument or pugnacious, easily influenced group. If you believe that your fears are justified, refuse to confidently and firmly. But at the same time think of an attractive counteroffer. At least - to celebrate New Year in a new place, whether it's a skating rink in the city center or interesting trip. Or, for example, invite his friends to his home ... It would be a serious mistake to criticize his company (resentment and anger of a teenager are provided!) Or tie it to the usual (and does not meet its new needs) adult feast. Allowing the teenager to celebrate the New Year with friends, stipulate the terms: what time he would call, when and how to return. You need to know exactly the place parties, owners of the apartment (phoned them in advance), and phone number of someone from the company. It is important that the teenager knew he could reach you at any moment. And then the holiday that you first meet not together, pull together, not alienate you. "