Fantasies about something else: it means that we have stopped loving partner?

What kind of fantasies do you mean? More often than not about the scenarios constructed in the imagination, which should cause sexual arousal. However, sexual fantasies can not be reduced to that of psychoanalysis. They occur primarily as a result of our unconscious and express our desires.

Fantasies about something else: it means that we have stopped loving partner?

"What kind of fantasies do you mean? More often than not about the scenarios constructed in the imagination, which should cause sexual arousal. However, sexual fantasies can not be reduced to that of psychoanalysis. They occur primarily as a result of our unconscious and express our desires. Then, if we afford it, they can be transformed already informed scenarios.

But the "conscious" does not mean implemented in reality! Take, for example, a common fantasy of a stranger, slips into bed with a woman to have sex with her. What does it mean? I feel like I do not know about it, but the other knows. He reveals to me my wish, then I am not responsible for it. In real life, this woman does not aspire to such a situation, an imaginary scene just softens the guilt caused by the desire for sex. Fantasy precede sexual intercourse. Therefore, they do not change, even if the change of our partners. Our thoughts belong only to us. Where does the guilt? Its source - in love-merger, which we felt as an infant to the mother, it seemed to us better than we know what is happening to us. Little by little we have separated from her, we now have our secret thoughts. What a pleasure - to elude the all-powerful, in our opinion, his mother! Finally we belong to ourselves and to accept the fact that it does not exist in order to meet all our needs. But with the advent of this distance we begin to fear that we have fallen out of love, there will be no more of that concern on which we depend. That is why we are afraid to bring a loved one, when we see in the imaginations of someone else. In romantic relationships are always two poles: the desire to be themselves and the pursuit of love-merger in order to fully meet their needs. "