On holiday wishes

On holiday wishes

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New Year - the richest holiday desires. All wish you all - "and what you want to do yourself." The last option seems to be used by those who are afraid of bugs. A fault, of course, can happen. The author wishes assumes a certain boldness in regard to "tostuemogo", wondering eyes on his condition and determine what is missing. Do not guess - offend, but guessing too exactly in danger of falling into the affected area. After all wish - a kind the diagnosis: for example, a young very rarely and only in special circumstances, wish health. Toast begin to sound like the time when it comes into question. Do millionaires wealth wish? I honestly do not know. But I suspect that they rather wish to save it. There's a subtle but significant difference. Not surprisingly, most often we hear the clichéd love-wishes for happiness and success, prosperity. And, as a rule, we accept them smiling, but without thinking. And it is true: they are important to the content, and the form, sign of good relations with us.

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If it wishes to do informally and seriously, ... One teacher of wisdom (all of us from time to time, there are some taking the form of family, colleagues and random passengers) told me about the magic technique. He argued that it is futile to wish yourself or others what we absolutely do not and never have been. This desire has no chance to come true. For the execution of necessary work of the imagination, and imagination is repelled by the experience, at least a minimum. Therefore, making your wish someone, get at least a grain of it what you wish to wish, and refer to it. Here then is your desire to be warm, personal and friendly, and his strength, may produce in the life of your friend some benefit. That is, apparently, the desire of wealth must include a reference to the recent successful operations, and wishes for health - the memory of that stormy energy, which played at the destination in those days, when he was running a race mischievous preschooler in the yard. And the wisdom of the teacher said this: "It makes no sense to desire a man to be beautiful, because it is not the quality, but the quality of facing him a look. He also should wish to develop the flair is what will allow him to find a dedicated and loving friends. "

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And it is interesting that there is only one tale (of Sleeping Beauty), which tells of the evil desire on the part of, and a great many stories that warn us of own our desires. Does this mean that the sure-fire option - "what are your own wish" - in fact, is not so safe? In the film "Stalker" tell about Porcupine, who went into a deadly zone, and there came up a magical place where desires are executed, and asked him to come back alive his dead brother. And I come home - and got a lot of money. "Just really a man never knows what he wants. There are complex. His head wants one, the spinal cord - the other, and the third the soul ... And no one is able to understand this mess, "- commented this event one of the characters.

Everyone has probably ever (and one day) to hear the phrase "Fear of their desires, because they are executed!" Frequent repetition has elevated her to the rank of indisputable truth. Recently, I tried to find out who said it. But failed - quoted refer someone to the ancients, who in the wisdom of the people. Perhaps this goes back to the idea of ​​Honore de Balzac and his novel "shagreen". His character receives a mysterious artifact - a flap of shagreen (ie, a goat or a sheep, a special candle with a fine-grained pattern..) Of the skin, which grants wishes, but with each new accomplishment is reduced in size, which represents the reduction of the lifetime of the owner. And the young man wants to first wealth, then love and, anticipating death, trying to stop his desire - but still does not stand up and die, having been covered by what we call a "desire" Unspecified -.. Ie, sexual desire. For a young person pursuant to a desire to be dangerous because thus reduced his life. True, we need to remember: a magic item he received after decided to commit suicide - that is, without sharkskin he would have had to spend a few hours! Or maybe the above aphorism goes back to ancient times, to the Buddhist teachings, two of the four noble truths which reads as follows: "there is suffering; there is a cause of suffering - the desire. " But there are significant differences: the Buddha is talking about "restless dissatisfaction" or "insatiable desire", ie the dangers of desire itself, not its execution...

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Well, I keep looking - and someday, perhaps, find out who the strange man who calls us to be afraid of wish-fulfillment, and understand why he does it. In the meantime, I think that the danger is probably in another - we do not always know how to (just do not have the habits and skills) wish for that indeed would bring us joy. Like the girl from a joke that caught a goldfish and three wishes: one - that she had a big-very big nose, the other - to have hairy ears, and the third - to skhoodilis eye to the nose. Fish all sang, and then he said: "Hey, girl, and after all you could ask for you to be a smart, beautiful and married a prince!" And the girl to her and says: "And Che, could, huh ?!"

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Several times in my eyes the familiar "slipped" past the fulfillment of desires. My love classmate said she wanted to have a child by this man, who at the time did not pay attention to it. Then they are still married and have a baby boy, but the young woman was not happy in the marriage and divorced her husband, and did not notice that her wish was fulfilled. Or here's another story, is not love, and geographic: my kindergarten friend Vlad wanted to get to India and wrote adventure serials that were to happen to him there. We have not seen each other for many years, and when they met, it turned out that he worked for several years in Delhi. Of course, I immediately asked how he was happy, once in the country of their dreams? Vlad was very surprised: he had completely forgotten about his childhood dream. Sometimes I myself looked look around, wondering what of what I see is the result of desires of which I have forgotten?