Vaginismus - a psychological problem?
Despite the abundance of information that we have still a lot of prejudice, can complicate the intimate life. Sex therapist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc monthly analyzes one such popular opinion.
This muscle spasm making it impossible to penetrate the vagina. Vaginismus is of two types: primary, if a woman has never had sex, and no way of penetration for her is impossible, and the secondary, when a woman has made love (and maybe even have children). In the first case, a woman often thinks that her vagina is too small, that her hymen is too strong, or there's something wrong ... you have to wonder how she refers to herself; imagine how your body; how she feels sexually mature? What are the ideas of a man; his penis; about the act of love? Someone afraid of the idea (rough, bloody) defloration; other scare the possible consequences of sex in the first place - Pregnancy: unconscious woman may be afraid, if it dwell somebody alien and hostile ... In addition, since the sexual life, she changes the status in the eyes of their parents: if it is too afraid that it the act does not approve, deem treason, her unconscious can try to protect it with the help of such symptoms. In other words, so it manifests itself need to be protected! Like all fears this causes hypertonicity of muscles - the ones that surround the entrance to the vagina. And it prevents any penetration, even if the woman is willing and waiting for him. And its power is not limited to this area: it is often compressed and thighs, she does not dare to move them apart, take the position that will help the man ... And how to explain the secondary vaginismus?
Despite the experience of love, a woman's body suddenly refuses to have sex. What hurt her event was the cause - a difficult birth, the loss of someone close, moral or physical humiliation? Some drop overflowed the cup - and a woman filled the fear? Or she feels the urgent need ... and a complete inability to say "no"? Then for her body tells her: "I'd like to, but I can not."
CATHERINE Blanc (CATHERINE BLANC), author of the book "Female sexuality" ( "La sexualité des femmes n'est pas celle des magazines", Évolution, 2009).