Ready (and) I go to a psychologist?

The main ideas of

  • Listen to yourself. Stuttering or timidity, over work, or the shock of violence ... There are many reasons for a meeting with a psychologist.
  • overcome internal resistance. We may frighten change - even change for the better.
  • To question stereotypes. What do not we inspire friends or the media, in fact, psychotherapy is not always expensive and not necessarily lasts for years.


Ready (and) I go to a psychologist?

This is what we do when we strongly hurts, say, a tooth? Of course, we run to the dentist. But when the soul hurts when months and even years to suffer from insomnia or panic attacks, or a lack of confidence in ourselves, we are in no hurry to help. Meanwhile emotional experiences affect the quality of life and health is no less than the physical ailments. About 60% of those who come to clinics with a variety of complaints - from frequent colds to arrhythmia, or hypertension, need the help of a therapist or in treatment, and medical and psychotherapeutic *. Nevertheless, by the psychologist is consulted by only 10% of men and women **. What prevents us to take this step?

In Russia, has its own history

Psychotherapy there is a little more than a hundred years (if we start counting from the first session of Sigmund Freud). In Russia in the early twentieth century there was a huge interest in the scientific and practical psychology of Freud's discoveries. The Soviet government could see the "reactionary nature" of both at once: in the early 1920s even worked psychoanalytic kindergarten in Moscow. But by the mid 20's psychoanalysis recognized the reactionary course, the history of psychotherapy in Russia broke from that moment, to resume in the late 80's - early 90-ies. In Europe and North America over the decades, psychotherapy has come a long way and if you do not become a mandatory part of life, it is certainly no longer considered exotic and non-poor intellectual fad. We're just at the beginning. And much we still unusual.

Who's Who of Professionals

Ready (and) I go to a psychologist?


specialist with higher medical or psychological education and training in the field of psychotherapy (at least 3-4 years). In addition to theory, it includes personal terapiiyu as the patient's own practice and psychotherapeutic work under the constant supervision of a qualified professional. The therapist treats psychoactive word using various techniques and psychotherapeutic methods.


psychotherapist, who manages the method of psychoanalysis, member of the International Psychoanalytical Association (IPA). Psychoanalytic education takes at least 8-10 years and includes theoretical and clinical training; many years as a personal analysis on the patient couch (not less than 3 times a week); process supervision own psychoanalytic practice. In Russia, such specialists are scarce.


It has higher education in psychology and specializes in one of the branches of psychology (social, age, clinical, neuropsychology ...). Teaches, works for a company (eg the Personnel Manager), schools, kindergartens.

Counseling Psychology

specialist with higher psychological education, engaged in psychological counseling (individual, family, professional), conducts trainings, on duty at the helpline. It helps to clarify the situation, to find a solution and return the state of psychological comfort. Do not write prescriptions and does not give advice.


doctor. Diagnoses and treats those whose emotional state or impaired perception of reality, whose behavior harms to the person or others. He has the right to appoint drugs. Many psychiatrists are also using the methods of psychotherapy.

What prevents us

Stereotypes. Psychologists commenting on various television and radio events in films and television series, we often see them at work - so imperceptibly many emerged of the therapy, which lasts for years, is expensive, and the therapist is always cold and silent. This stereotype is preventing us to ask for help.

Ready (and) I go to a psychologist?

But even more hinders education, which leads us to achieve results, adherence patterns. We hear from childhood: "Good Girls Do not Cry", "This boy can always stand up for themselves." As we strongly urge that a successful adult able to cope with their mental problems without outside help. "I was the oldest boy in the family, smart, on whom" can be relied upon, "- says 42-year-old Max. - In fact, I played the role of the father in a family without a father. When I first felt a lack of confidence, I told myself: everything goes. To go to a psychologist would mean a sign of weakness, then collapsed to the image of himself that I built ... "to question everything based on what our life? Such a possibility frightens. Unconscious fear prevents dare to take this step - dial phone specialist.

The possibility of change. Usual - even tiresome, obsolete and ill - predictability and certainty. New - even if it is the best - scary. Often, realizing that life has got into a dead end, we prefer to stay in it. And we have a right to it. "The situation changes when the habitual behavior and environment, an established relationship that cause us suffering - emphasizes Jungian analyst Leo Khegai. - But even in such moments, feeling helpless, we find many reasons to postpone the march to the expert: we have too little money, too much to do, then something else prevents us ".

"We have to quit the habit believe only in what you can measure and weigh" LEV Khegai

The fear to be different. We are afraid of not only the changes in life, we are afraid of change themselves. "When a year ago I went to a meeting with a therapist, I was sure that will turn into another person. Now it's funny, but then I said goodbye to him, trying to remember their feelings, because after the therapy I have I do not ", - says the 30-year-old Svetlana.

"I thought, as soon as the therapist will understand what I am really angry, he will refuse me. But as soon as I saw that in this study no one is going to put me to count and read morality, I felt better. I even began to doubt: is it really so terrible I really "- says 25-year-old Larissa. "Fear is found in his soul something icky, fear of exposure is most often unconscious, but it was he who makes many hesitated before calling for help - says psychotherapist Marina Khazanov. - However, a therapist completely different task: he did not change the life of the patient, and the patient changes what it does not like in your life. The therapist only helps him to start these changes and adapt to them. And of course, as a result of psychotherapy dreamer does not become a prudent realist and learning to translate their dreams into reality or artistic images. Those who are used to hide feelings, of course, begins to throw on the neck of everyone he met, but will openly express their emotions. "

"The goal of therapy - FREE POWER TO ADDRESS fears and negative emotions for life and work" MARINA Hazanova

The attitude of others. Albina 24 years old, and she was almost a year goes to a therapist in secret from their friends and parents. "I'm ashamed to admit it - what if they decide I'm crazy? Indeed, I myself thought before that psychologists treat those who are not all right in the head. " All that is related to mental illness, repels. "But life in the modern world is in healthy people disorder that should not be attributed to mental illness, but who deserve help - says Marina Khazanov. - they do not require frequent long-term work, but we need support at some stage of life. " Stuttering or timidity, overload at work or a shock from the experience of violence ... These reasons consult combines the inability to deal with the problem itself. "Straight talk with a friend, who many consider an alternative to psychological care, relieves only in certain situations - emphasizes Leo Khegai. - specialist work is organized differently than the intimate conversation, and gives different results. Speak out - then get a short-term relief. Turn to a psychologist or therapist - a chance to get access to their deep resources to realize their potential. "

Ready (and) I go to a psychologist?

"Those who come to psychotherapy, no more crazy people and even more unfortunate than many others - sure the therapist Ekaterina Mihailova. - They're just more aware and more active. Anyone who deliberately spend money to solve their problems, behaves much older one who prefers to burden their family and friends. "

What is the goal of therapy

What we get, spending 10, 50 or 90 hours in the office of a therapist? And is it true that the therapy is so much changing our lives? "Therapist - not God, and not a magician. It can not and is not going to turn patients into other people - says psychotherapist Marina Khazanov. - He has another task - to help give up the illusions, to heal wounds, to extract from the depths of memory the painful memories. Extract to finally mourn and forget that it is necessary to forget, and leave yourself experience - he's found in each of our experience. " In fact, to keep their fears and painful memories in my heart, leaving enormous psychic powers. These forces must be freed for life. The ultimate goal of any therapy can be formulated this way: free for the life and work of the mental powers of man, teach him new ways to resolve conflicts, communicate with others and yourself. * From the therapist Gunther Meberta report at the conference "Psychoanalysis and psychoanalytic psychotherapy in Germany and Russia: Theory and Practice" (Moscow, May 2009).

** According to the Levada Center survey conducted in 2010. See. More on