The accident in the subway: how to cope with panic
man-made disasters always causes fear and confusion. Peak experiences sharp falls on the first ten days after the event. The strength of the emotions associated with our previous experiences, negative memories or unconscious traumas experienced in childhood. The tragedy, which I saw on TV, like us back, making relive the helplessness, the feeling of dependence on others. The first 2-3 days is particularly difficult for people disturbing, impressionable, and those who have faced similar dramas. Here are some practical steps that will help cope with the shock.
Share your feelings
Fear, despair, panic - these strong emotions may seem inappropriate, if the tragedy has not affected us personally. Hence, an involuntary desire to hold back, not to show her feelings. "The unspoken emotions reinforce the internal stress and anxiety - says psychologist Sergei Yenikolopov. - That is why it is so important to talk about your feelings with family, friends or psychologists. Talk about your fears with the native people, and as detailed as possible. Pronunciation of will help ease the tension, "calm down" the fear. If you - the listener, do not estimate a story about their experiences. Give the other person to talk to and feel your support. A great responsibility now relatives, friends and colleagues of those who crash somehow affected. " Speak out and get professional help may be on the hotline. Years of experience with those who survived extreme situations, accumulated in the Moscow office of psychological assistance to the population (helpline 051) and the Moscow City Psychological and Pedagogical University (Children's hotline 8 (495) 624-6001).
Reduce the viewing of news programs
Melodrama, historical - anything other than news and disaster movies, especially in the first days after the accident. Constantly listening to the news, we are strengthening their anxiety and lose touch with reality. "The strong impression from TV programs give a false sense of involvement in the stream of life and acute reaction to them is due to the fact that a person loses touch with his own feelings and no longer aware that it has to his attitude, and what is not", - says psychologist Marina Khazanov.
Analyze the situation
We live in a world where no one is safe from threats, absolute security does not exist. Nevertheless, the accident in the subway, when you look at what has happened in terms of statistics, - the case is still rare. "Metro - a much safer for us to kind of transport than cars on the streets or even their own feet (there is always a chance of slipping, cripple, and so forth, when you walk on foot), - says social psychologist Hakob Nazaretyan. - Even at home likely to die in an accident are much higher than in the subway. "
Do not contaminate their fears children
Footage from news programs, which are presented as absolute truth, in fact, mounted as a spectacle designed to arouse in us strong emotions. The greatest damage they can cause to children. "The child is difficult to ignore the video and recognize the border between what he sees on the screen, and their daily lives. So now it is not necessary to watch the TV program information along with the children, - says child psychologist Elena Morozova. - If the world begins to be perceived only as the center of the threat, all the cognitive powers of the child will be spent not on knowledge and comprehension of reality, and to be protected from it. "
We adults can unwittingly infect their own fears of children. Understand what worries you most in this situation. Analyze your attitude. If you manage to cope with his anxiety, to feel your confidence, your child can calm down - no matter what.