How to talk to the baby, so he grew sociable person

On what it hears a child around him at an age when he can only babble, it depends on the ability to communicate with people in the future.

How to talk to the baby, so he grew sociable person

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For a long time it was thought that social skills are developing themselves, they do not have to teach. However, new studies show that the child's environment in the first years of life depends on its ability to communicate with people in the future. Psychologists from the University of York (United Kingdom) was observed in 40 women with children aged 10, 12, 16 and 20 months. Researchers recorded how mothers interacted with the kids. They were especially interested in "psychological comments" - the assumption that thinks and feels the child, making any action. For example, if your child is not able to take a toy, open the door or build a pyramid, the parent could be noted aloud that he seems "dissatisfied."

After a while, when the children are over 5-6 years, the scientists tested the development of their thinking and social skills. To do this, we used the method of "strange stories". These stories are designed to demonstrate the one of several kinds of complex social interactions: a lie, "a white lie", the belief sham, a joke, a mutual misunderstanding, the use of metaphors and sarcasm, bluff ... After telling the child to ask control questions to determine how well he understands the described scenarios. It turned out that the more parents have used "psychological comments" when communicating with the child in the first years of his life, the better he understood the feelings and motivations of others. "These results show that the ability of the mother to capture the thoughts and feelings of the child at an early age plays an important role for the development of his ability to understand the psychology of other people", - says the study's lead author Elizabeth Kirk (Elizabeth Kirk). In other words, developing his social skills for the future.

See. E. Kirk et al. "A longitudinal investigation of the relationship between maternal mind-mindedness and theory of mind", British Journal of Developmental Psychology, published on 27 July 2015.